There comes a time in the lives of most girls when they begin to look for a serious relationship with the goal of subsequent marriage. But all the men who want to meet them or start a relationship are married. When their number becomes critical, the girl begins to realize that something is wrong here.

For some reason, without noticing it, she attracts
precisely those representatives of the strong half of humanity who are already connected by marriage. If this is your case, then our article will help you find the reasons for this circumstance, and also tell you how to solve this problem.

So, what are you doing wrong that is only attracting married men?

"Comfortable" woman

Married people choose those women who are comfortable for them. Most people don't want their spouse to find out about their relationship. Therefore, they are looking for smart and careful people who will not tell their wife. If you are smart, quiet, and even beautiful, you can become a good target for “married men.”

Excessive requirements

Some girls have very high demands on husband candidates. They are looking not just for a good guy who would love, but for an accomplished, financially secure person, physically developed, with a pleasant appearance. And such men are most often married. If this is your case, try lowering the bar a little. Especially if you yourself are not “sugar”.

Failed relationships in the past

Perhaps the girl had previously had unsuccessful relationships, when she fell in love with those young people who later turned out to be losers. Therefore, she is simply afraid of falling in love with the “wrong person.” Many single men who are suitable for the role of husband remain unnoticed.

Expand your field of vision maybe that guy you don’t notice is a real prince, although not from a fairy tale.

"My own girl"

The way a woman communicates may be the reason why she attracts men who are married. If she behaves too friendly, jokes often, takes on the role of a “vest”,
in which married men cry and even helps them solve family problems, she ultimately finds herself in a dangerous position.

If this style of communication is typical for you, keep in mind:
that it is very convenient for married people to have such a compassionate mistress. Try initially not to break the distance in communication and never help married men in their family affairs.

Infancy

If a girl is attracted to married men who offer frivolous relationships, then she needs to think about how seriously she takes herself, as well as all men in general. You need to think about what kind of partner you want: an equal or a so-called “daddy”.

If the problem is your immaturity, then you should think about why you want to get married if you don’t understand the seriousness of this step.

Smart and beautiful

If a woman is beautiful, charming, attractive and self-confident, then she always attracts married people. Well-fed, satisfied, wealthy, self-confident married men do not have a complex when they flirt with such a beauty. And it can scare away unmarried people.

Many unmarried men believe that a beautiful, independent woman has been busy for a long time and they don’t even make any attempts to start a relationship with her.

If you are from this category, take a closer look at modest men, who you think are not paying attention to you. Help them take the first step, and perhaps one of them will become a good and faithful husband to you.

Change yourself

Change yourself and unmarried men will reach out to you!
If you are familiar with the above, then you should seriously think about how to change your style of behavior, your manner of communication, in order to stop becoming an object of desire for married men.

If it is still difficult to understand what exactly is wrong, try asking the next person directly what exactly attracts him to you. You may be surprised to learn the truth, but it will help you change yourself.

And a man who meets your requirements will appear on the horizon - reliable, loving, self-confident, wealthy and independent, but most importantly – single.

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Is this a coincidence or is it just you?

Have you ever felt like you only attract men who already have a girlfriend or even a wife? In other words, do you always go around as mistresses?

If so, then perhaps you yourself are unconsciously sending signals that are received only by those who are already involved in relationships with others. You just don't understand what your actions and body language are saying.

So, why would a man who is in a relationship look for someone else? Thanks to my experience with married men and bad boys, I can shed some light on this from the inside.

Men in long-term relationships are looking for new emotions and impressions. They still love their woman, but want something new. They are hunters, and the cave mentality pushes them to search for new prey. But many men are already tamed hunters, especially if their cavewoman completely satisfies them.

When there is a ring on your finger and another woman sees it, she shouldn't even try to flirt with that man. Unless he can influence her career or she just wants to drink at his expense. You can continue. But he won't leave his wife.

It's even worse with men who live in civil marriages, because they don't have any signs of belonging, such as rings. And psychologically they have given themselves such freedom, because physically they have no evidence that they are related. The philosophy "I'm only busy when she's around" becomes a mantra.

Have you noticed that when you go out with friends, not dressed up or wearing makeup, you attract men more often?

This is because men feel desperate.

A woman's need for a man is more than noticeable, and if he needs a girl for one night, then you are the first one he will approach. Sure, it's flattering - you get attention and free drinks - but it ends up being bad when you find out he has a girlfriend/wife.

I developed my theory of bad underwear. When you wear ugly underwear, you don't expect to come home with a new acquaintance. And when you have the aura of “I’m not desperately looking for a man,” you become more attractive and intriguing to the opposite sex. This way, they want you for who you are and not just to get laid.

If you have low self-esteem, it shows. Men know that a woman with low self-esteem is easy to get into bed and has a psychological and physical advantage. Such women are easy targets for one-night stands.

Rule #1 that women must learn and understand: you cannot change a man.

Yes, he enjoys spending time with you. And if he is older, then you will make him feel young again. But no matter how good you feel, you cannot convince him to leave his wife or girlfriend.

Another red flag is when a man constantly says that he is going to leave his wife. But if there is no other reason besides you for this, then this will not happen. Forget it, go away.

Sex is important too. If a man is not satisfied with his constant girlfriend, then he will look around. But just because he says he doesn't sleep with his wife doesn't mean it's true. You cannot trust a cheater, because his actions already speak louder than words.

The description of the mistress is usually the same. A mistress is a sweet, cheerful and successful girl. It's easy with her while his stress-drinking, unsexy wife sits at home. When he is with you, he forgets about problems at home.

But as soon as you find out he has someone, leave. What if it was your boyfriend doing this to you? If he's cheating on his girlfriend, it's more than likely that he won't have a problem cheating on you again.

And even if he leaves her for you, somewhere in the depths of your soul you should always doubt whether he will do the same to you. And then it will hurt you. Mistresses rarely win.

Why do you like married men?

Very often girls who are not yet married ask me the same question: why are all the good guys busy? Why don’t you like anyone, and if you suddenly like him, then he’s definitely already taken, is he married?

Why is that? If he is handsome, well-groomed, well dressed, speaks competently, and is self-confident, then he is definitely not mine? Why are other girls so lucky, but not me?

I'll tell you one secret! =)
These men are so good because they are married. Yes Yes! Because someone is already taking care of him, someone is ironing his shirts, starching his collar, someone is making those straight lines on his trousers, and helping him choose a tie. And that’s why he always looks so good and elegant.

Someone tells him every day that he is the best and he will succeed, and that is why he is so confident.

Someone pays attention to him every day, kisses him on the cheek goodbye, and that is why he is so relaxed and balanced.

Someone feeds him well, and therefore he does not eat pasta and store-bought dumplings, as other single men do. And perhaps he even understands the freshness of products, because he has something to compare with.

The problem with single girls is that they are looking for the Ideal Man! But a man cannot be perfect until he has met his One and Only! This is how we are made. Everything in this world strives for harmony. And a person cannot be harmonious while he is alone.

Until a man is balanced with feminine energy, he will not be so beautiful and courageous.

A man is always ideas. A woman has feelings and a heart. When a man does something, he just does it. There is an idea - you need to work - and it works. And when a woman appears, she fills men’s ideas with heart and beauty. Not just go to work, but go to work in a new suit, go to work and eat well for this, work and be confident, etc.

What are unmarried men usually like? They are different, but very often absent-minded, or unkempt, or so angry, gloomy, or... well, there are many more “or”s you can write here.

Therefore, you need to look not for an ideal man, but just a man. All ideal, married men were ordinary bachelors before meeting their wives. And it was these beautiful women who were able to see the potential in them and believe in it. It was these women who, with their love and faith in their own man, helped him reveal his best qualities.

The most important thing is that a man has ideas. There were principles on how to live and where to move. And everything else is the woman’s task. This is exactly why a woman is needed, to join a man and fill his ideas with life and meaning!

Try, for the sake of an experiment, to take any ordinary man, surround him with care and love, pay attention to him every day, praise and admire him, feed him delicious food... What will come of this? ;) I think I know the answer.)))

There are a lot of free and lonely men around. It would seem that a lonely and unmarried person, as a rule, has a slimmer figure, more free time, and more money. But why then, in most cases, do ladies choose their lover from among the married?

A married man is always healthy

A married man is 100% tested for HIV. It is also safe to use in terms of sexually transmitted diseases. The guarantee that a man is “pure” in this regard is his prosperous family life.

A married man has rich sexual experience

Ladies understand that when starting a relationship with a lonely or too young man, they will have to literally “teach” him the wisdom of sex. Not many people like this arrangement. In addition, many young gentlemen do not accept such “training”, believing that they are already doing everything right. It’s just a woman who got caught “with shifts.” Therefore, it is always easier to come prepared and “bewitch” a married man, who, during his family “career,” has perfectly learned what ladies like in bed and what they don’t.

To annoy the one who has everything right

Many ladies start relationships with married people simply to take revenge, often on a complete stranger, who got such a man. Fate turned out that they have neither a husband nor a normal relationship. And this woman, albeit a stranger, is all right in this regard. So why doesn’t she put this happy couple at odds?

To prove to myself that I am no worse

Some ladies look at married women from the outside and wonder what men see in them? No figure, no beauty in face, no money, but next to each there is a loving man, and even a whole bunch of children...

On a subconscious level, everyone strives to prove to herself that she is no worse, and maybe even a hundred times better. And he begins to engage in “pranks” with one or another married man, thereby increasing his self-esteem. Only these cute fools don’t realize that a man only wants to “tumble” with them, but he will still live only with his wife. Yes, often these ladies become the cause of divorces. But it’s rarely possible to build full-fledged family happiness on someone else’s grief.

The Forbidden fruit is sweet

Yes, some ladies enjoy playing tricks with a married man, as they say, walking “on the edge,” that is, at any moment having the opportunity to “get burned” by his wife. This brings a touch of a kind of extreme to intimate life, forces the body to produce more adrenaline, and therefore sexual experiences and orgasm in this case are much brighter.

Conclusion

Although, there are exceptions. It may very well be that the man simply fell deeply into the soul of a third-party lady, and therefore she is ready to do anything to win him back from his wife. She understands that she is doing very badly, destroying someone else’s family, that is, the family hearth and way of life that another woman built. But he can’t do anything about it.

It's very unfortunate, but that's life. Everyone in this mortal world first of all thinks only of themselves...

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A serious man who dreams of a close-knit family and children, isn’t this the dream of every representative of the fairer sex?

For some reason, young girls often look at those men who are already married. What interesting things do they see in a person who is often much older. Why do girls love married men?

Why girls love married men

Probably because such a man has sufficient experience in relationships with the female sex. He is independent and often has a good income. It’s much more interesting to spend time with him than with someone his own age. But, unfortunately, such romances usually end in separation. A man does not dare to leave his family, and, besides, a girl can be just an easy romance for him, an opportunity to have an easy time. Or the girl resigns herself to the role of a mistress, not hoping to start a family with her beloved man.

Positive and negative aspects of the love of married men

But, as in any relationship, there are not only negative sides, but also positive ones.
Let's talk about the negative ones first.
The girl is practically deprived of contact with her loved one. She can't call him herself. Otherwise, there is a risk that his wife will get caught. Therefore, her whole life depends on the man’s calls. In addition, conversations are most often devoid of romance. The man speaks dryly, observing secrecy.
For the same reasons, the initiative for dating lies entirely with the man. Moreover, meetings take place away from busy streets. For fear of meeting your loved one's friends.
Love contacts occur in a hurry.
The man almost never stays overnight.
The girl constantly experiences painful jealousy and envy of a happy woman - his wife. She herself has no right to the man she loves and cannot express her grievances to him. Since in this case, the man will simply leave and it is not a fact that he will ever call again.

Positive aspects.
The girl has a lot of free time, which she spends as she pleases. She is free to attend any entertainment event and does not have to answer to anyone.
No one tries to sort things out and does not create conflict situations.
By portraying yourself as a martyr of circumstances, you can make a man feel guilty. And then he will go to great lengths to earn forgiveness.
An affair with a married man does not pass without a trace. He can leave a deep imprint on the entire future fate of the girl. No matter what she does, no matter how much she loves, for a man she is just a secondary woman. The legal spouse comes first. And this wife constantly stands between them. If you think about it, you involuntarily admit the fact that there are much more negative sides in this relationship.
And it’s even more unclear: why do girls love married men?
Don't believe their promises. Very rarely does a man exchange his wife for a young and somewhat stupid mistress. Especially if there are children growing up in the family. More often than not, the ending of this story is not attractive. Listen to other people's experiences and don't make the same mistakes.